Understanding that life is not always about frantically chasing down the things that I desire has been one of the key learnings of my late twenties. You can’t will stuff into being. I’m a pusher – a rusher – a “how can I cram even more into this day?” type of person so pushing more, is rarely ever the answer for me.
I’m not saying chasing your dreams and going after what you want doesn’t take hard work and sacrifice. It does. Without that, achieving your goal wouldn’t really be worth it anyways. (Isn’t it funny how that’s true?)
Slowing down, moving (exercise) and being outside have always been inextricably linked to my feeling healthy and feeling ready to leap forward in my life. I have to slow down to speed up when it comes to chasing my dreams. I don’t mix well with people who believe in going 110% 24 hours a day. It burns me out, big time.
I think every person has a rhythm that really works for them – and when they hit that sweet spot between pushing and letting go – the magic happens. Doors open. Opportunities knock. Bad habits die.
So, what’s the catch? If you find your sweet spot of push and pull why doesn’t the stuff you want in life start to appear, like NOW? First, let’s be real and say that having everything happen all at once (even if it’s good stuff) can be SUPER CHALLENGING.
Second, close your eyes and imagine that the thing you want just happened. You can finally quit the job you hate. You meet a guy who values you, like really values and cherishes you. And he wants to get serious. Maybe you pay off your last lump sum of debt. You can teach yoga full time.
Taste that feeling for a minute – and somewhere in there you’re probably experiencing a touch of fear and panic. Who am I without that job? that debt? How do I know that I’m ready for a partner who really loves me? What if I screw it up? What if it [my life] gets really good and I just mess the whole thing up? Or my personal weakness: I’m actually really not ready. Nope. Nevermind. Delay! Stop! Negate what I just asked for.
Answer this question honesty: “What’s stopping me from feeling ready for that in my life right now?”
Feel the fear and it do it anyways.
The reason we don’t manifest what we want isn’t usually all the things we point at our fingers at in our day-to-day lives – the bad economy or needing to be more tech savvy or have a masters in business etc. etc. It’s the little stuff that we pick up and believe along the way about who we are, what we deserve and what we’re capable of.
1.) This Tumeric Milkshake Detox Smoothie.
2.) Are you always apologizing for, well, just being? This is a must-read from Andie Mitchell who attended Medfield High School with me.
3.) This chia pudding has changed my life. Too much? Ok, but just try it.