tinySo everyone says that after a break up you need to “get some space,” “clear your mind” and “keep yourself busy.”

On some level all of those things are true, and on some level none of those things feel quite right. We all experience grief in different ways, and perhaps the great wisdom I’ve gleaned from this experience thus far is that only you know how to heal your heart in the best, truest way. No friend, parent or mentor can give you an “answer” about how best to proceed.

Last weekend I visited a close friend in Vermont and for me the comforting part of leaving town was the chance to step away from all the pieces in my life that still feel like they’re missing something. Calendars with dates crossed off on them. Empty holes in my cupboards where I kept his favorite foods.

So off I went to visit one of my all-time favorite people who it often feels knows me better than I know myself!

omgWe started things off with lunch in Montpelier at The Skinny Pancake. They make gluten-free crepes with buckwheat flour, and they OBVIOUSLY have a ton of vegan and local options. Including the super rad Skinny Pancake foodshare map pictured above. From there, we walked around Montpelier a little bit and visited Lindsay’s favorite shopping spot. I was introduced to the super cute line of Synergy dresses (made from organic cotton) and I’m now drooling over this one and this one and most everything on their site.

Next, we went to see Lindsay’s boyfriends’ tiny house (pictured above), and it was just as tiny and adorable as I thought it would be. I learned a whole bunch more about planting and planning and herbs. Living in a tiny house appeals to me on a lot of levels because it insists that we do away with this extreme connection we have to STUFF, but I also realized while I was there that it’s probably not something I could do comfortably for the long haul. After that we headed from Montpelier to Burlington (about a forty-five minute drive) and went out to dinner at American Flatbread’s Burlington Hearth. And I ate a gluten-free pizza full of cheese. I can usually get away with eating some cheese if it’s local and if the rest of the ingredients in the pizza are what I would classify as “mindful.”

I also got to sit in on Lindsay’s prenatal yoga class at Otter Creek in Middlebury AND visit the City Market Co-op. #Imagrocerystorenerdnow.

Leaving Vermont, I had this strong connection to the fact that I wanted to get back to my life in Boston. I like what I’ve got going. I’ve worked hard to make a lot of it come to fruition. I believe sometimes you have to let of something good to allow something great to come in.

I’ll leave with you with this quote. It has become my personal life mantra for the moment: “In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you.”

Three things:

1.) Did you see Beyonce’s #whatispretty campaign? “This is what pretty means to you, one image, caption at a time.”  Amazing concept to challenge our definition of beauty/pretty.

2.) A coworker introduced me to Songza and my musical life has been changed forever. You can select music by mood, genre, decade and more. So let’s say you pick cocky…you can then select from a slew of fantastic options such as “Eye of the Tiger: Confidence Mix” and “Y’all Ready for This” 90’s Jock Jams.” HA! Go listen! It’s amazing.

3.) I’m currently debating between starting two very different but extremely interesting books. First, The Opposite of Loneliness. “An affecting and hope-filled posthumous collection of essays and stories from the talented young Yale graduate whose title essay captured the world’s attention in 2012 and turned her into an icon for her generation.” I had the pleasure of working with Marina Keegan’s mother on some work projects so I feel a connection to this book, and I love the writing style of that essay.

Second, The Spontaneous Fulfillment of Desire: Harnessing the Power of Coincidence by Deepak Chopra. I love coincidences and I think you should too!