This is the lesson the Universe has been sending my way the past couple of days: stop talking. First, I went into chatterbox overdrive this past weekend at my friend from high school’s bridal shower. Zing.
It went a little like this: I felt the need to explain why I’ve been taking time to myself, why I’m actually not interested in dating at the moment, why I’m still living at home and why I’m actually enjoying all of it. So on and on I went, feeling the need to justify my choices to people who weren’t asking me to do so in the first place. I wasn’t a total blabber mouth, but I know I could’ve done better. I wasn’t my highest self. It didn’t feel good; so I filed that experience away under “room for improvement.”
Then, this morning, Gabby Bernstein sent out her video blog (vlog) and discussed how she’s going to start practicing WAIT (as in WAIT – why am I talking?). Zing times two.
Besides practicing the WAIT method, I also really liked this advice I stumbled upon on Tiny Buddha:
Talk less, and when you do talk have noble conversation.
When you hang out with your friends and loved ones, learn to love the spaces in the conversation. Listen more to their tone as they share rather than thinking about how you are going to respond.
Pay attention to what happens to your energy when you talk less, and how much happier you feel as you conserve more energy. Plus, you will love the simple intimacy of your relationships as you increase presence and heart-centered listening, freeing yourself of complications and unwanted dramas.
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