This book is totally, perfectly, painfully me. And about three pages into it I realized I needed to do a happiness project too. So I’ve started jotting down in the corners of papers, and on receipts in my purse topics that I think I might want to focus on. And I feel like this isn’t something I want to do, it’s something I need to do. It’s something that will teach me, when I feel like things are out of my control there’s often a lot I CAN do to feel better, to empower myself to make better decisions and feel happier overall.  And there are often hard choices you have to make in order to get yourself on track. choices that are odds with what “everyone” thinks you “should” do.

I really enjoyed this quote so I wanted to share… (the author’s conversation with her sister)

“I worry about feeling legitimate, I confessed. “Working in something like law or finance or politics would make me feel legitimate.”

I expected her to say something like “Writing  is legitimate” or “You can switch to something else if you don’t like it,” but she was far more astute.

“You know,” she said, “you’ve always had this desire for legitimacy, and you’ll have it forever. It’s probably why you went to law school. But should you let it determine your next job?”


“You’ve already done highly legitimate things, like clerking on the Supreme Court, but do you feel legitimate?”

“Not really.”

“So you probably never will. Okay just don’t let that drive your decisions.”

so true.